This Month's Questions

Dear Dr Phil, I am thinking of having a sexual intercourse with my boyfriend. During the intercourse with my boyfriend, will I still get pregnant if I choose to make unprotected sex all the way through without using contraception while not in my menstruation?

It is possible to get pregnant at any time during your menstrual cycle, if you are not using contraception and you have unprotected sex then there is a possibility that you can become pregnant. For more information on contraception choices go to: http://www.likeitis.org.au/contraception


Hi, I’m 14 and I haven’t pashed a guy yet. I really like a guy at school and he likes me to and every time he asks to pash I have to make  up a reason because I'm kind of to scared to and I don’t want to tell him. My friend told me to practice on the web of my hand but I don’t know if it’s like the real thing. can you please help me because I really want to kiss him...he also wants to do a lot of stuff like oral and real sex but I keep saying no, I want to but I don’t want to be called a slut. PLEASE HELP ME ASAP

It is really important that anyone that you decide to kiss or ‘pash’ is someone that you are comfortable with. It would be a good idea to become friends with the guy at school that you like before you decide to take things further. 
If you are comfortable with him then you will have a better experience when you do start to kiss and experiment and any awkward moments can be laughed off. 
Oral sex and real sex should not occur if you are not ready. It is really important that you are relaxed and ready when and if you decide to take the next step and it should also be with someone that is significant to you so that you have no regrets. 
If you are concerned about your reputation and what other people will think of you if you have sex then maybe you are not ready to enter into a sexual relationship. Sex shouldn’t be taken lightly; you need to think about protection from STI’s and also contraception as well as how to say ‘no’ if you are not comfortable.

 

Hi. I'm a 16 year old girl and I've been masturbating since I was around 11 or 12. I often talk to my guy friends about masturbation and sex casually, but I'm confused at how easily I become horny or aroused compared to most of the girls I know. I'm not in any way ready for sex emotionally, but is it normal to be immediately turned on by small things like sex scenes in movies and just by talking about sex?

It is definitely normal and healthy to have a high sex drive; there is nothing wrong with what you have described at all. It is good that you realise that you are not emotionally ready for sex and it is something that you should wait to explore until you are ready.