Sexuality

When you hit puberty, it’s common to start to feel confused about your sexuality. These feelings are completely natural and are tied up with the hormones surging through your body. Only you will know what your sexual preference is but it may take some time for you to work it all out and feel completely sure about it.

So what does it all mean?

Heterosexual (straight): attracted to people of the opposite sex to yourself

Homosexual (gay/lesbian): attracted to people of the same sex as yourself

Bisexual (bi-sexual): attracted to both sexes

Is it normal to feel a certain way?

It’s very normal as a teenager to have a crush on someone of the same sex, but it doesn’t mean you’re gay - it’s all part of growing up.

On the other hand, some teenagers are very sure at an early stage that they are gay. Others may experiment with both boys and girls before working out their feelings. Stay true to yourself and like all other things (for example your developing personality or career choice), things eventually will become clearer with time. It is normal to feel confused but only by being honest with yourself and thinking through your options according to what makes you happy can you discover who you are.Only you will know what your sexual preferences but it may take some time for you to work it all out and feel completely sure about it.

Being gay or bi-sexual is not wrong or unnatural, but simply part of a whole range of sexual lifestyles that people find themselves drawn to. The important thing is that you are happy with yourself, comfortable with your sexuality and respectful of other peoples’ choices.

If you want to talk to someone about being gay, lesbian or bi-sexual,
click here for a list of helplines.

For answers to frequently asked questions about sexual orientation, click here.

To find our more info on sex, click here.