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Unsure of the basics about sex? Got a few questions about the advanced stuff? Well, don't worry. Covering everything from kissing to orgasm - here are the answers you've been looking for!


Masturbation (or 'wanking') is normal, healthy and a good way to start exploring your body. It means touching yourself for sexual pleasure. For boys, that means rubbing the penis, and girls, rubbing the area around the clitoris (the girl's sexual hotspot). Masturbation means experimenting to find out what feels good for you, and often it can make you have an orgasm (or ‘cum’). Masturbation won't affect your sex life in the future and you won't go blind!

Kissing & touching

Most people start their sexual relationship with kissing and touching. This may not happen at once, and usually takes place over time - sometimes days, often weeks and maybe even months. Also, you don't have to move to the 'next base' if you don't want to - only do what feels comfortable and right for you. Maybe you'll start with kissing, and kissing with tongues and after a while move on to touching and fondling areas such as the breasts and the genital region.

Many couples play with each others sex organs for pleasure. This is known as 'heavy petting'. If you both do it at the same time, it is known as 'mutual masturbation'. It can be a very intimate experience, particularly if you don't feel ready for full sexual intercourse.

Oral sex

Gradually as you feel closer, you might experiment with oral sex (though some people choose not to do this and others choose only to go this far). This, along with kissing and touching is known as foreplay and again, doesn't automatically lead to full sex. If you are having oral sex, just like full sex, you need to make sure you are protected against STIs.

With any foreplay you'll experience what's known as arousal. If you are a guy this is easy to see, because you will get an erection. However, in a girl's body arousal is not so obvious. Signs to look for are a slight swell in the breasts; the clitoris (this is a small pea shaped bit above where your urine comes out and is the most sensitive and sexy female spot) very slightly protruding; and a wet, slippery feeling in the genitals.

Going all the way

Going all the way has various meanings and definitions and can be expressed in a number of ways.

Sexual intercourse can mean penetration of either a female or a male and isn’t necessarily defined as a penis entering a vagina. Sex can occur between males and females, males and males, and females and females….or any number of these make ups!.

If you decide that you want to explore sex further then there are a number of things to consider. If you are having penetrative sex then you should make sure that you or your partner is sufficiently lubricated. This may happen naturally if a female is turned on, however if you feel you need a little extra lubrication, then try using KY jelly which you can buy from any chemist.

Before penetration occurs always remember to use sufficient precautions to avoid STIs and unplanned pregnancies - a condom and the pill is your best bet. If you are considering having anal sex then the use of a thicker condom (instead of an ultra thin one) and plenty of lubricant is advised.

Once you have penetrated (or have been penetrated) then you and your partner usually start to move together until either of you (or both of you) climaxes (or has an orgasm).

Remember though – always practice safer sex and use a condom to avoid STIs and unplanned pregnancy. And the most important thing....make sure you only do what feels comfortable and right for you.

What does that mean?!

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